As I have
grown older, I have found that my inner circle of friends has become significantly
smaller. There is truth to realizing that if you do not have people in your
life that can love you unconditionally through your transparency, they can
never fully appreciate your transformation. A greater gift it is to hold only a
few solid rocks, than being surrounded by an entire quarry of ones who just
don’t make the cut.
As women,
one of the most difficult obstacles to face is the reality of our friendships.
This is not to be confused with the act of fellowship. I am referring to those
people in your life who truly know you, know what lies deep within your heart,
and despite your flaws (we all have them), continue to walk this life alongside
you. As I have prayed over the message God has spoken to me this week, I feel
as though this is one we could all stand to hear. The Bible is clear on what
friendships were designed to do, and it is imperative as Christ followers we
make an intentional effort to seek those who in turn, make us better people. In
1 Corinthians 15:33 Paul preaches to the church in Ephesus, warning believers “Do not be fooled by those who say such
things for bad company corrupts good character.” In this passage, he is specifically
referring to our relationships with others who deny the resurrection of Christ.
However, I also feel this applies to our very relationships with fellow
Christians.
Do not
misunderstand what I am saying. I strongly believe in a healthy balance of relationships
with believers and non. What I am specifically implying today is in regards to those with
fellow Christians. These relationships are held to a higher standard as we
share with each other a mutual love for Christ. I ask you this, do you have
someone in your life who is toxic? Do you find yourself constantly emerged
within the latest circle of gossip, with no other purpose but to satisfy the
flesh? One of the many signs of spiritual maturity is to know when to walk away
from someone or something who has a negative impact on our soul. You are surely
mistaken if you think you can associate with certain people, but not allow for
their influence to slowly creep into your life. Beware, the enemy is exceptionally skilled in
this process!
Proverbs
27:17 says “As iron sharpens iron, a
friend sharpens a friend.” Ladies, we all need people who will challenge
us, convict us, and assist us to grow in Christ. We are biblically called to hold each other
accountable, while speaking truth in love. This passage emphasizes the fact
that there is a mental sharpness that transpires from surrounding yourself with
certain types of people. We require friends that pour into us in an effort to
replenish what we are hopefully pouring out into others. All
too often I find myself counseling other women who are devastated to realize
those they considered to be a friend are nowhere to be found once the dust has
settled. One of things I always encourage others with is understanding that it is a blessing to feel heartache in these
situations, as you will quickly sift out the sand from the rocks.
Make it a
point today to reflect upon those you have allowed in your life. Reflect upon
what kind of friend you are to others as well, and make changes in the areas He
is leading you to. Pray about who it is that are considered to be your rocks,
build your castle with them and allow for His waters to wash the sand away.
~ Stef
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